I am blessed to have amazing supports in my mom, my sister and a few exceptional friends. They are people I can count on to talk things through and to be there to support me in all sorts of crazy ways. But even with that, I have often relied on outside help to support me through the rough patches. Those helpers have walked a lot of paths – from traditional talk therapy to reiki, art therapy, equine therapy, spiritual teachers, and coaches.
And what I know about all of that is that seeking those outside supports helped me navigate the challenges of life much more easily. Now, before we get too far into this, I want to be clear that this isn’t a post dedicated to convincing you to work with me :-). What it is, is an invitation to explore the helpers in your world.
There are helpers in your world who are a part of your life. It could be a parent, sibling, or best friend. The person who you can call at any time to share your joys and who also offers a listening ear when you need to unburden your heart. In turn, you are also there for them to share their joys and be a listening ear when it’s their turn to vent. Knowing who these people are and investing in those relationships when things are good goes a long way in making sure you can count on them when you are going through something and need to call upon them. They are the relationships to nourish for a lifetime.
There are also helpers who just show up in your life at the times when you need them. These are the helpers who you find along your path when the time is right. When you find yourself at odds with your world and unsure of where to turn. They are there to help you recover your sense of self and be open to possibility, to become receptive to what is possible as you go forward.
Choosing Your Best Support
These helpers aren’t as easy to find as your mom, sister, or BFF because you need to have a sense of what you need, be open to seeing them and accept their support. Often, the starting place is a sense of “I need help” but you aren’t totally sure where to turn.
What Kind of Support Do You Need?
Support comes in all shapes and sizes. When figuring out how to get the support you need to make it through the rough patches, the first step is in figuring out what kind of support you need. I like to explore this through the 4 bodies – mental, emotional, spiritual and physical.
Mental and Emotional
These two are often grouped together because of their interconnectedness. Often, the thoughts that are swirling around in your mind are what’s triggering the emotions swirling around in your heart. When those thoughts and feelings feel like they are swirling out of control, it’s highly beneficial to seek support to help quiet the negative and get back on track focusing on building a positive life. Talk therapy is the standard go-to for these issues, and sometimes a doctor will also offer medication to calm anxiety or ease depression. Sometimes people feel like talk therapy isn’t the right route. In that case, I’d suggest considering some of the other support options available to you.
Sometimes that sense of “I need help” comes from feeling disconnected from yourself. Disconnected from the world around you. And hungry to regain that connection. Spiritual support is an exceptional tool for regaining that sense of connectedness. Spiritual support is also helpful if you know you rely on your connection with Spirit to lead your life. Use the tools and gifts you’ve been blessed with! Spiritual support may be the support offered by your priest, minister, rabbi, or imam. It could be from a prayer or meditation group. It can also be from a healer working with energy, like reiki, therapeutic touch or Qigong. There is often added benefit in the mental, emotional and physical bodies when working with these energy healers.
It’s far too easy to discount the effects of the stress on the human body. And we’re all far to guilty of ignoring the little aches and pains, brushing them off as ‘part of life’ or ‘part of aging’. If you’re in one of those moments of life of ‘I need help’ I’m going to just say that it’s critically important to support your physical body too. Some of this is in looking after yourself – healthy foods, plenty of fluids, sleep and exercise. And that might seem obvious, but in the midst of life’s chaos choosing the salad over the french fries can be a bit of a challenge.
Physical support is also offered through massage, chiropractic, osteopathic, or if you’re really feeling luxurious – a day at the spa. What’s important in choosing physical support is doing what’s going to make your body feel good, from the inside and the outside.
What are the supports you need to help navigate the chaos of your life? Where are you going to find them?
The Special Role of Coaching
As a life design coach, I’d be remiss to not point out the special role of coaching in offering you support. A coach can help you to pause in the midst of the chaos. At least long enough to take a couple of deep breaths, slow down, and figure out what needs to happen to get life pulled back together and back on track. To develop a clear vision of what is possible in your life and figure out what steps you need to take to get there. To figure out what other supports you help get you there. And to help hold you accountable along the way.
If you feel you might benefit from this kind of support, send me an email and we’ll get on the phone together to see how I can best support you at this time in your life.
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