Stop Waiting for The Right Time

What Are You Waiting For? | Blog Post by Rachel Bolton, Life Design Coach

Earlier this week as we were in the car at an insanely early hour (for me anyway!) to go to watch the solar eclipse in the totality zone, I was thinking about some of the ingredients for living life on purpose.  What led me to it was noticing a little feeling of 'this is crazy, we are close enough to see most of it' as we set out on the nearly 200-mile drive.

One of those ingredients is seizing the moment.  Living every day to the fullest.

It made me think about a colleague I used to work with many years ago. She talked about how sad it was to clean out her mother's home when she passed.  Not for the reason you might think.  It was because of the number of things she threw out or gave away that had never been used:

  • High-quality bed sheets that she was keeping for 'just the right overnight guests' while her own sheets were lesser quality, worn and dingy
  • Good china that had rarely been used while she was eating off of chipped and mismatched plates
  • Sexy underwear that she'd been saving for a special occasion that was so old the elastic had gone brittle and cracked

You get the picture.  Item after item she discovered tucked away in a closet, the basement, or the attic that had never been used.  She remembered as a child watching her mother make do with what they had, all the while saving 'the good stuff' for 'someday' or 'someone important'.

Someday never came though. And no one was important enough for the good stuff. Not even herself.

While you might not have that same collection of stuff in your house, do you have that same collection of thoughts in your mind?

  • My husband and I will go on more dates when the children are older
  • I'll be happy with my body when I lose 10 more pounds
  • I'll (go back to school, start that business, or do that other thing you've been dreaming of doing for yourself) when life slows down a bit

Waiting.  Waiting for the time to be right, for the body you want, for enough money, for a million other reasons.  What it boils down to is waiting for later to give yourself permission to be happy.

So What Are You Waiting For?

Living life on purpose means, in part, doing what brings you joy now instead of putting it off for a "better time".  Those "better times" are always based on what you *should* do instead of what you *desire* to do.  You should be at home spending time with your kids so you forego your relationship with your partner.  You should be thinner because the media has conditioned us to believe that so you hold yourself back in life because of the extra pounds. You shouldn't take time for yourself to pursue something you love because there are too many responsibilities right now to be so selfish.

Those "better times" are always based on what you *should* do instead of what you *desire* to do.  You should be at home spending time with your kids so you forego your relationship with your partner.  You should be thinner because the media has conditioned us to believe that so you hold yourself back in life because of the extra pounds. You shouldn't take time for yourself to pursue something you love because there are too many responsibilities right now to be so selfish.

You should be at home spending time with your kids so you forego your relationship with your partner.  You should be thinner because the media has conditioned us to believe that so you hold yourself back in life because of the extra pounds. You shouldn't take time for yourself to pursue something you love because there are too many responsibilities right now to be so selfish.

You get to make the choice.  You can choose to live life holding back for "the right time" or "for good" as my friend's mother used to say.  Or you can choose to live life to the fullest every day.

So what are you waiting for? What can you do today to make 'someday' today?

 

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2 Responses

  1. Grace Kennedy (Debbie Morris') daughter
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    Thank you for this! I’ve been “saving” my favorite song, afraid I wouldn’t love it as much if I listened to it all the time. As I get older I realize there is no time like the present (and literally no time *but* the present)! I’ve added my favorite song to my regular playlist and I’ve been enjoying it so much!

    • Rachel Bolton
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      It’s funny the things we save, isn’t it? I imagine adding it to your regular play list means regular dance parties too! PS: I love that you shared how we are connected 🙂

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