Life is not a math test

math testRemember doing math tests in school?  Do your best, show your work, and hopefully arrive at the correct answer.  Full marks if you got the question right and partial marks if you showed your work but made an error somewhere along the way. Get a good enough mark and you’d earn a gold star or some kind of certificate of merit that proved you were worthy.

Perhaps because of that early training, most people approach life the same way.  There is a belief that if you work hard, show your work, and arrive at the *right* answer, you will earn top marks in life too. Someone, somewhere, will pat you on the head and give you a gold star – whether it’s the promotion you want, the partner of your dreams, or a home of your own.

And then you can rest.  You will have graduated from the school of life, knowing all there is to know.  Life will be smooth sailing from here on in.

Trouble is, life is not a math test.

In life, there is no such thing as “getting it done”.

What feels like the deepest depths of self-discovery as you begin to figure out who you are in your 20s gives way to newer levels of self-awareness in your 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond.

What feels like “having it all” when you’re done school, have a job in your field of study, a home and a car, gives way to new levels of desire as you make choices about having and raising children, exploring your career path, and understanding more about what you want from life.

What feels like firm belief in your faith gets shaken as you experience struggle, expand your horizons, and have new and different experiences of Spirit.

In all areas of life, every time you find yourself thinking “I got this” you will invariably discover that you don’t.  You discover that there is something new to learn or experience. That your wants and needs change as your life does.  That your understanding of yourself and the world is in a state of constant change and growth.

You might get caught up in that math-test mentality.  A feeling that you somehow have to work harder or ‘fix it’ so that you will finally achieve…well, I’m not really sure what you will finally achieve.

There is nothing to fix. There is nothing to attain. There is only more truth to be revealed.

Take a deep breath and let that one sink in for a moment.  There is nothing to fix.  There is nothing to attain. There is only more truth to be revealed.

You see, if we can agree that life is not a math test, then we can also agree that there is no ‘getting the right answer.’ And that means that there is nothing that is *wrong* or that needs to be *fixed* in your life.

If we can agree that life is not a math test, then we can also agree that there is no ‘getting it done.’ And that means that there is nothing to attain.  There is no perfect score to achieve so you can officially receive your certificate of merit showing your A++ in life.

All that is left is that there is more truth to be revealed.

Think back to when you were a teenager.  You were pretty sure you had life figured out.  You knew way more than your parents did.  You knew how you were going to live your life, and it was going to be awesome.

But can you imagine if life had just been exactly how your teenage self saw it panning out?  Probably not what you’d want for yourself today, is it?

Instead, as you got older, you got a little wiser.  More life experience. More understanding.  More truth being revealed.

Your teenage self wasn’t wrong in what they wanted.  You wanted what you felt was best for you based on your truth in that moment.

As more truth revealed itself to you, you understood your life differently and took action to live your life based on what you had discovered.

And that will always be true.  There will always be more truth to be revealed.

You just have to be ready to step up and discover it.

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Rachel is a coach supporting women to rediscover who they are beyond the *shoulds* of life. To create and live life on purpose.

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