Is life passing you by?

is life passing you byRemember when you were a kid and it seemed to take forever for time to pass.  The year you had to wait from one birthday to the next seemed to take forever.  Summer vacation felt like it was never going to end.

And the older you get, it feels like time is somehow speeding up.  Days speed by and turn into weeks.  Weeks turn into months.  Somehow, we’re already half-way through 2015, and it feels like just yesterday we were ringing in the New Year.

Life can feel like it is whirling by for a lot of reasons.  Your life is full of activity. You work long hours. You have a busy social calendar. You spend more time than you thought possible taking care of the kids and the house.

But I’ve noticed that there is a growing trend, especially among those who have invested in their personal development.  A trend that is not healthy.  A trend that sub-consciously creates the conditions for life to pass you by.  Not just because your life is full, or you work a lot.  But because you’re letting yourself off the hook from taking action to lead your life where you want it to go.

How? It’s just one little sentence.

“Well, if it’s meant to be, I’m sure it will happen somehow.”


“If it doesn’t work out, I guess it just wasn’t meant to happen.”

Now, I want to say first that both of these sentiments can absolutely be true. It is important to not be attached to outcome. Both of these sentiments reflect that.

But, and this is a very big BUT, I’ve noticed a growing trend of people who also use these sentiments as an excuse to let life pass you by.

If you are feeling stuck in a rut, unhappy with how your life is unfolding, or like you aren’t accomplishing everything you want to in life, you might be one of those people.

I want to share a funny story with you to illustrate my point.

There once was a man who was down on his luck, scraping by and barely making ends meet. Every day on his way to work he stops at a statue of the Virgin Mary. He prays to her to please help him to win the lottery.  Every day. For years.  Until one day a miracle occurs.  He stops at the statue, prays the same prayer he has every day, and to his surprise, the statue comes to life.  The Virgin Mary looks down at him and say “I would love to help you.  But if you want to win the lottery, you have to buy a ticket.  Please, help yourself so that I can help you.”

This man spent years letting life pass him by.  In order for his prayers to be answered, he first had to take action for himself.

If you have an opportunity that you’d like to have come to fruition, or if you have a goal that you are intending to achieve, it isn’t enough to simply do the work of making intention and visualizing a successful outcome.

You also need to take action.

This is the difference between not being attached to outcome and using ‘it just wasn’t meant to be’ as an excuse.

When you have an opportunity before you or a goal you are intending to reach, it’s important to align your actions to your intention.  A great check-in on this is to ask yourself every day ‘what have I done today to take advantage of this opportunity?’ or ‘what have I done today to help achieve this goal?’

And when you have a really great opportunity that also feels a little scary, it’s also important to step up and say YES!

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Rachel is a coach supporting women to rediscover who they are beyond the *shoulds* of life. To create and live life on purpose.

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