A selection of blogs, videos, and encouragement to inspire and challenge you.

The Courage to Really Live Your Life
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Last week, I offered a reminder to stop waiting for the right time. What I forgot to mention is that sometimes, as you choose to make ‘someday’ today, a great deal of courage is needed. It takes courage to really live your life. Not just to get up every day … Read More

Stop Waiting for The Right Time
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Earlier this week as we were in the car at an insanely early hour (for me anyway!) to go to watch the solar eclipse in the totality zone, I was thinking about some of the ingredients for living life on purpose.  What led me to it was noticing a little … Read More

Begin to Set Personal Boundaries
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How do I begin to set boundaries?  It’s such a common question, and today I want to start talking about the answer. Need a quick recap? Check out Personal Boundaries 101 for a primer on what boundaries are and Have You Got Boundary Issues for a quick check in on … Read More

Have You Got Boundary Issues?
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Boundary issues are a common cause of challenge in relationships.  Not just your romantic partner relationship, but friendships, family and work relationships, and just about anywhere you are interacting with people on a regular basis. If you ever wonder what is going on in your relationships or why you are … Read More

Exploring Personal Boundaries
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Personal Boundaries. Do you know what they are?  How confident are you about your personal boundaries? Do you feel comfortable in them? If you answered no to any of these questions, let’s explore it together. What are Personal Boundaries? Personal boundaries are the rules you have for yourself for how … Read More

Why Self Care is So Bloody Hard
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Self care is hard for a lot of women. At face value, that doesn’t always make a lot of sense. After all, self care is good for you. So why is self care so bloody hard? A quick primer before we dive in, here’s what self-care is and here are … Read More

Creating a Self-Care Routine
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Last week, I shared about the difference between enough self-care and the right self-care to feel fulfilled and nurtured. That begs a question though.  How do you create an effective self-care routine? Self-care is something that needs to be practiced every day with great intention.  When you do, there are … Read More

Self-Care. It’s not what you think it is.
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Self care is a big buzzword these days. Got a problem in life? Self-care is the solution! You know what I’m talking about. When you find yourself in any kind of stressful circumstance, every well-meaning friend or family member is going to say something like ‘make sure you are taking … Read More

How to Trust Without Getting Hurt
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Let’s face it.  Most people who work with a life coach have had something crappy happen in their lives. We often start working together in that time when you’ve gotten up onto your feet again, have dusted yourself off, and are looking around at the world trying to figure out … Read More

How to Make Good Choices
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Have you ever heard of the paperclip experiment? It’s an important lesson in how to make good choices in life. Basically, researchers took a group of children and asked them how many uses they could come up with for a paperclip. The kindergarten students could come up with about 100 … Read More

Are YOU Leading Your Life?
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Often, we *think* we are leading our lives…but we’re not really.  Consciously or subconsciously, we give our leadership power away to something or someone else. Can you honestly say you are leading your life fully? Nearly every woman I’ve ever coached in their lives has had a challenge in leading … Read More

Are Your Little Distractions Helping or Hurting You?
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When you’re stressed, upset or angry, a pretty common coping mechanism is to turn to one of many distractions to take your mind off of things. Some of those distractions are good for you.  Some of them not so much.  That’s not what today’s post is about though. What I … Read More

It’s Either Yes or No…Or Is It?
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When asked for a decision, I believe there are 3 kinds of people.  Those who: tend to easily say yes tend to say no ask questions I first became most painfully aware of this when my stepdad pointed out a painful parenting mistake I was making. He pointed out that … Read More

What To Do When You Break Your New Year’s Resolutions
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New Year’s Day–Now is the accepted time to make your regular annual good resolutions. Next week you can begin paving hell with them as usual. Yesterday, everybody smoked his last cigar, took his last drink, and swore his last oath. Today, we are a pious and exemplary community. Thirty days … Read More

Being Busy is Not an Honor Badge
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The other day I was in the book store hunting for some new Christmas stories. Since the New Year is fast approaching, the front display was full of planners for 2017. As I walked by, I stopped and stared at the one in this picture.  “I AM VERY BUSY.” it … Read More

Don’t Break Bad Habits
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The advice I’m going to give you is probably going to seem counterintuitive. Don’t break bad habits. You probably have bad habits that you wish you could stop. It might be biting your fingernails, smoking, or something else you know isn’t good for you. Perhaps it is more about something … Read More

Why you don’t need to find your purpose (and what to do instead)
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I have had similar conversations with countless clients over the years. Clients who have come to me, in part, because they feel like somehow their life doesn’t measure up.  It doesn’t measure up because they haven’t found their life purpose yet. They feel that somehow it makes them a failure. … Read More

Practice Gratitude to Improve Your Life
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I firmly believe that when you practice gratitude you improve your life. When you spend time every day noticing what you are grateful for, you begin to develop a habit of looking for something to be grateful for throughout the day. While it’s possible (perhaps even likely) that more great … Read More

Only You Can Empower Yourself
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This might come as a bit of a shock to you. Only you can empower yourself. The personal development world may have fooled you into forgetting that. I know because I hang out in that world too.  Not a day goes by that someone isn’t sharing how they are going … Read More

Are You Settling in Life?
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A couple of weeks ago, I noticed a glut of posts in my social media about ‘create a life you love’ ‘live a life you love’ ‘why aren’t you loving your life’ and that sort of thing. I noticed I was getting irritated about them.  As I explored that irritation, I had … Read More

God Doesn’t Give You More Than You Can Handle
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God Doesn’t Give You More Than You Can Handle. I often think that phrase should come with a disclaimer like they do for prescription drugs.  It would go a little something like this: * This belief may cause undue stress, damage your faith, lead to feelings of isolation and inadequacy. … Read More

Rituals of Recovery
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A bad day at work, a breakup, a car accident, a long stretch of intense and stressful work, serious illness – they all take their toll.  Equally important to how you handle life’s stresses in the moment is what you do afterwards. I think of this as my rituals of … Read More

Tired of Being Perfect?
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Seriously, it’s time to stop pretending to be perfect. The other day I shared this inspirational quote on Facebook. Along with it, I wrote “I am ready. The last 6-7 months have been hard, and it is time to transform this life into something amazing!” Seems pretty normal, right? I … Read More

Get Back on Track After Your Life Crisis
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Life throws each and every one of us curveballs.  More than we ever thought we’d meet in our lives.  Sometimes those curve balls are great and take you off in a magical direction you never thought possible. More often, you experience these curveballs as challenges – critical illness, death of … Read More

Stop playing the waiting game
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Oh, the waiting game. Dr. Seuss said some pretty clever things in his books.  Of that, I think we can all agree.  This one is one of my favorite reminders: Waiting for a train to go or a bus to come, or a plane to go or the mail to come, or … Read More

Where To Turn When You Need Support
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I am blessed to have amazing supports in my mom, my sister and a few exceptional friends. They are people I can count on to talk things through and to be there to support me in all sorts of crazy ways. But even with that, I have often relied on … Read More

Stop Shoulding Yourself
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Should is a dirty word.  A word that drives me crazy. Ever stop to think about it? “Well, you should have known” (really, how?) “Oh, I really want to, but I should do this instead” (really, why?) “What should have happened was…” (but it didn’t, did it?) When you say … Read More

Why You Need to Have a Hobby
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Modern adult life is full of productivity. Productivity at work that leads to a promotion or other recognition. Productivity in raising your children that leads to good grades, popularity, and having raised a well-rounded capable human being. Productivity at the gym as you lift more weight or on the sports … Read More

Getting Enough Sleep? Here’s how.
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Sleep is important. I am pretty sure we can all agree on that.  Just as I’m pretty sure we can agree that you aren’t getting enough sleep.  Here are a couple of signs that will let you know: You rely on an alarm clock to wake up every morning, rarely, … Read More

The Importance of Silence in a Loud and Noisy World
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We live in a loud and noisy world. And I’m not just talking about the constant background noise of television, radio or your favorite playlist. Our lives are full of noise. Whether it’s the kids calling, the phone ringing, the demands of work or your to-do list constantly running through … Read More

Start Where You Are
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There’s a quote that floats around the internet that says: Whenever it gets shared, I think to myself ‘true…but not quite.’  Because the problem is not the picture in your head of how life is supposed to be.  The problem is the gap between the life you are living and … Read More

Shaking Up Your New Year’s Resolutions
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We’re in the first days of 2016. Have you made your New Year’s Resolutions yet? My truth is that I don’t make resolutions.  I think of them much the same way Mark Twain did… January 1 is a prime time to be looking at all the ways you want life … Read More

Loving Christmas
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We’re in the homestretch. Christmas Eve is tomorrow, and with it comes many meals and visits with family and loved ones. They are busy days that are full of love, generosity, and joy. They are also filled with hustle and bustle, stress, and exhaustion. By the time Christmas is over, … Read More

Bring Back the Christmas Joy
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The holidays are a special time of year, aren’t they? Extra opportunities to get together with family and friends. A focus on love, peace and generosity. Beautiful lights, music and decorations.  Memories of childhood Christmas joy. An opportunity to grow your heartspace a little bigger each year. But they can … Read More

Easy isn’t always good…and it might be screwing up your life
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Easy.  I think it’s one of the biggest traps we fall into as human beings. When life is easy, there isn’t a lot of effort necessary.  And that sounds like a great course of action, right? But easy isn’t always comfortable or good. It might be easy to keep your … Read More

Well that sucked. Where do you go from here?
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In recent weeks, I’ve shared about the first baby steps of moving on after a challenging situation, my formula for working with positive thinking, and how to shift into being solution focused. And all of that leads me to today. Because as I looked back on those recent posts, I … Read More

There’s Always a Solution
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I have a big pet peeve. Want to know what it is? Whining and complaining. And, I’ve got a 7 year old daughter, so whining and complaining happens a lot around here. After years of saying ‘stop whining’ I realized that I wasn’t following one of my own beliefs.  A … Read More

When Positive Thinking Isn’t Enough
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Not long ago, I shared this image on my Facebook page.  I confess, I was really curious what the reaction would be.  Generally, there were a lot of ‘likes’.  And then my friend John McMillan said this: He can be as positive as can be about riding the Kentucky Derby, … Read More

How to start again
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We all have periods in our lives when life feels like it is totally falling apart; losing a job, losing a home, serious illness, and other major changes. Where you feel like life as you know it is over, and all you can do is just stare and watch it … Read More

Build Success While Building Your To-Do List
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To do lists.  We all make them. Whether you’re the kind of person who writes down a list every day, or it’s something you keep in your head. Unfortunately that to-do list can be unwittingly eroding your self-confidence and keeping you from living a life filled with meaning. How can … Read More

Courage. Have you got what it takes?
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It takes a great deal of courage to live life authentically. To live life on your own terms. It often means challenging the status quo. Speaking up and asking for what you want and what you deserve. Being vulnerable. And all of that takes courage. But I think we often … Read More

Life is not a math test
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Remember doing math tests in school?  Do your best, show your work, and hopefully arrive at the correct answer.  Full marks if you got the question right and partial marks if you showed your work but made an error somewhere along the way. Get a good enough mark and you’d … Read More

I was my first client…and still am.
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I was my first client.  Without any shadow of a doubt.  I’ve always known that I was in pursuit of my own best life.  Of being clear about my sense of purpose. How I would lead my own life. And I’ve done A LOT of work to turn that sense … Read More

My life isn’t perfect…how about yours?
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A friend recently challenged me about the work that I do.  With a little scorn in his voice he said “You’re supposed to be a life coach, helping other people to make their lives perfect, but your life is far from it. How can anyone actually trust you to be … Read More

Is life passing you by?
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Remember when you were a kid and it seemed to take forever for time to pass.  The year you had to wait from one birthday to the next seemed to take forever.  Summer vacation felt like it was never going to end. And the older you get, it feels like … Read More

Ready to Overcome Perfectionism?
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I was at an event a few years ago listening to a prominent business coach give a presentation.  I don’t really remember what the presentation was about.  What I do remember is a life-altering moment I had during her presentation. As luck would have it, she chose me out of … Read More

Is it acceptable to me? A simple question to keep you on track.
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Odds are, if you’ve been working on your personal development, you’ve experienced workshops or other programs where the facilitator has asked you to create a big, bold, audacious vision for your life.  I know I ask people to do it all the time. Having a big, bold, audacious vision for … Read More

Are Your Assumptions Holding You Back
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There are words I hear every single coaching client say in the beginning of our work together.  When they are sharing stories about what they are sad, mad, or frustrated about, they always include sentences that begin with one of these: It’s obvious what she thinks about me. I can … Read More

Get Good and Angry! How to Express Anger in a Healthy Way
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Oh…anger.  It feels taboo to even acknowledge it sometimes. I am a big advocate for positive thinking.  I believe in the Law of Attraction.  Whether you first learned about it from The Secret, Ask and It Is Given, or Think and Grow Rich, what it basically boils down to is … Read More

The shadow side of intuition
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I talk a lot about getting to know and listening to your intuition.  When you’re living life intentionally, it’s really important to listen to your intuition, that gut feeling, whether it’s yelling loudly in your ear or whispering quietly in an attempt to get your attention. It’s that intuitive voice … Read More

Am I the Leader of My Life?
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A few weeks ago, I attended Birgitt Williams’ Nourishing a Culture of Leadership workshop, and it was a game changer for me. We spent a day and a half exploring our personal leadership philosophy and how we nourish a culture of leadership in ourselves and those around us. One of … Read More

Creating Intention for 2015
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As I write this post, 2015 is less than 100 hours away.  Around the world, people are readying themselves for the New Year in countless different ways. And the question gets asked, over and over again… “What are your New Year’s Resolutions?” Friends are often surprised when I respond with … Read More

When ‘me time’ isn’t enough
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Last week, after almost 2 months of waiting, I had an appointment with a neurologist.  I’d had an MRI and bloodwork, and this was the day I was going to learn what, if anything, was wrong with me.    Turns out I’m fine, which is a relief. That’s the short … Read More

Mindfulness, Meditation, and Chakras. Oh my!
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Today’s post is a bit different than my usual musings.  I want to share my latest project with you, and I’m giving it away…absolutely free. The project is called Get to Know Your Chakras.  I wrote this meditation as part of the Individual Health and Balance Retreat, and have shared … Read More

Getting Unstuck: How to Finally Get Moving in All Areas of Your Life
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Do you ever feel stuck? You’ve got great intentions for making changes in your life to be healthier, do something new, or something else that feels important, but it just feels like you can’t get started or can’t stick with it once you do? Odds are, you’re stuck. And stuck … Read More

Start Where You Are
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Do any of these sound familiar? Have you found yourself saying any of them recently?  Not just to others, but maybe only to yourself? I need to learn this one more thing. I don’t have enough money. I don’t have enough time. It’s just not the right time. I’m just … Read More

How to Create Your Personal Development Plan
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“I just don’t know where to start.” It’s a sentence I hear a lot. Women get so overwhelmed with realizing that they aren’t living the life they thought they would that it creates a bit of paralysis.  Stepping out, stepping forward meaningfully into your life, is important and you can … Read More

Letting Go of Worry
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Worry is a waste of a good imagination.  And it’s something we’re all guilty of.  Whether it’s worrying about little things like running late or big things like money, every single one of us is guilty of worrying about something. Worry is defined as “giving way to anxiety and uncertainty … Read More

How to Ask for What You Want
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Asking for what you want, for what you deserve, is a skill.  It’s a skill that needs to be learned and practiced. Regularly. Trouble is, many people give up on what they want, on what they know they deserve, too easily and too often.  It starts with the small stuff … Read More

You don’t have to be so busy! Easy steps for simplifying your life.
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Being busy is something we tend to wear as a badge of honor these days, as though busy is somehow equal to happy, content, or successful.  The truth is that it’s usually the exact opposite. Busy people fill their lives with activity unconsciously.  They say yes to too many things.  … Read More

You always have a choice
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Have you ever stopped to think about the choices you are making every day? There is a lot of choice – often that you aren’t even consciously aware of. You make thousands of choices every single day, starting with choosing what time to get out of bed in the morning. … Read More

What are the stories that are holding you back?
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Everybody’s got a story.  Lots of stories.  Our stories come from our past experiences.  They sometimes come from our ancestors and their experiences too. Your story is powerful because it shapes your life now and long into the future. When I work with clients, often they have stories that they are … Read More

What Excuses Hold You Back?
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Excuses are powerful stuff.  They are the reasons why you ‘can’t’.  With a few magic words carefully woven together, you remove any sense of duty or responsibility you might feel.  Trouble is, it’s usually much easier to make excuses to yourself than it is to others. And when you make … Read More

Is ‘Good Enough’ Really Good Enough?
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What does ‘good enough’ really mean?  Let’s start with a common definition. When I was younger, ‘good enough’ meant that everything had to be absolutely perfect.  I’d spend hours agonizing over the smallest details, usually things that no one else would notice.  But I would.  And I held myself to … Read More

Need a Job?
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OK, so today’s post isn’t about me offering you a job.  What it is about is answering the number one question I heard this weekend when I posed a question to you, my readers, around the biggest challenges you are facing in designing the life of your dreams. You need … Read More

A friendly warning about New Year’s Resolutions
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The countdown is on. New Year’s Eve is just 1 week away and you’re about to be inundated with “helpful tips” about making the most of 2014, setting New Year’s resolutions, and how to keep your resolutions once you’ve set them. The articles, videos, and news stories are all created … Read More

I’m a failure. And proud of it!
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Wow, failure is such a powerful word. I looked it up. Here’s the definition: “the neglect or omission of expected or required action.” “an unsuccessful person or thing” Ouch! With that definition in mind, it’s no wonder so many people are absolutely driven to succeed at all costs. After all, … Read More

The surprising things that are holding you back
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Despite your best efforts, sometimes it feels like you are just stuck. You know you can be greater than you’ve been able to. Stronger. Brighter. More Joyful.  You can see that there is more to life. but no matter what, you just can’t get there.  There’s an elusive *something* inside … Read More

In Gratitude…Happy Thanksgiving!
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Happy Thanksgiving!  Today is Thanksgiving here in Canada and families across the country are gathering together to share a meal and give thanks for all that we have. I’m writing this post to give thanks to you, my community.  Nearly a year ago, I set out on a journey to … Read More

Sign, sign, everywhere a sign
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Sometimes I wish that everyone I encounter each day had a sign around their neck or a little cartoon bubble that hung out over their heads letting me know what was up for them in that moment.  We each bear our own burdens, are experiencing our own dramas and traumas.  … Read More

Nurturing yourself to lead life more fully
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It’s no secret. I’m really passionate about self-care.  Finding ways to nurture yourself every day is critical to your health both physically and mentally.  And yet, finding the time for self-care is one of the biggest challenges I hear from women every single day.  You give your time to your … Read More

Why Vision Boards Don’t Work
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Yep, I said it. Vision boards don’t work. Or, perhaps more accurately they rarely work because most people are doing them wrong. And there’s nothing more frustrating than spending hours working on ‘the perfect vision board’ only to have it sit in a box or get thrown up on a … Read More

Storytelling: How to Use Storytelling to Change Your Life
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Yes, I said it. How to use storytelling to change your life.  Sounds a bit impossible, right?  The reason I’m sharing today about the power of storytelling is because it really does have the power to be life-changing. You see, when you tell your stories, it transforms them. It brings … Read More

Creating Abundance with “Enough”
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“Enough” is a really powerful word that really isn’t given enough credit.  There is great power in being able to say “I have enough”. It’s easy to get caught up in the big picture – how much do you need this month, this year, in this lifetime?  But you can … Read More

Don’t Leave Them Behind! Share Your Journey
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Do you ever find yourself yelling out in an argument thinking to yourself: You just don’t understand me anymore I’m not like that anymore. Why do they keep treating me that way. You should be able to see how much I’ve grown. I deserve to be treated better! I am … Read More

Are you proud of where you are in life?
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That was the question I asked on Facebook the other day.  Are you proud of where you are in life?  I confess, I was surprised by the number of people who said no.  I was brokenhearted, witnessing people who weren’t able to feel proud of who they are. There’s a … Read More

Selfish or Selfless? Why You NEED to Put Yourself First
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I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve asked women a question that I think is really easy to answer, only to discover tears welling in their eyes and that they are completely lost for words. What’s the question? How do you take care of yourself, everyday? Simple right? No, … Read More

Spirit of Intent
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I watch people.  All the time. And each and every one of you are fascinating. One of the things that fascinates me is how each person understands your own spirit of intent and the spirit of intent of the people around you. What is spirit of intent?  Why does it … Read More

Finding Your Groove
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Ever feel like life should just be easier?  You hear people talking about getting in the groove or being in the flow and wish you could have that too? Me too.  At least, I used to be that way.  My daughter (age 5) recently reminded me of how easy it … Read More

I’m the Master of Distraction
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I confess, I’ve got shiny object syndrome.  And if there aren’t little distractions to keep me entertained, I can create big crazy stressful out-of-this world distractions too.  It’s really time to make it stop so I can step off the roller coaster, get grounded, and create the life and business … Read More

The Shift: Rediscovering My Personal WHY
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I’m back from a retreat with my business coaches and all of the amazing people involved with Big Vision Business.  And while I was away, I had a big realization about how I have been serving you.  I realize that I’ve had it all backwards. I know that my work … Read More

Allow Your Emotions
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I’ve always been a highly emotional person.  Quick to laugh. Quick to cry. I can’t tell you how many times different people, who were very well meaning, told me that I would need to learn how to toughen up, how to hide my emotions better, how to grow a thicker … Read More

Being Your Own Best Avocate
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To advocate is defined as to “publicly recommend or support.” It’s imperative in our lives – not just for our health and well being, but for reaching our heart’s desires in every area of our lives – to learn to be your own best advocate. To publicly support what you … Read More